Perspective…What’s Yours?

Perspective…Is the glass half empty or half full? Your perspective can change not only your outlook but the outlook and lives of others.

The Hospital Window

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside. (emphasis added)

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man couldn’t hear the band – he could see it. In his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days and weeks passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.

Too many times we cloud our perspective and outlook with things that are negative. We see the wrong instead of looking for what’s good. This story is a great example of how one man’s perceived disability (Blindness) was actually a blessing to someone else. By using his mind and words he was able to paint beautiful pictures for his roommate and bring a time of peace and comfort to him daily.

What is your perspective? If you were to change your perspective on just one thing, how could that impact others for good?

I’d love to hear your comments in the comments section below.

Shake It Off and Step Up!

Have you ever felt like you’re trapped in a well and life is just shoveling dirt on top of you? So did this donkey, but he just shook it off and stepped up!

Once upon a time, there was a donkey.

It was a stupid, stubborn old donkey and even the farmer who owned it didn’t like him.

The farmer owned a large property and one day he heard in the distance the loud, distinctive “eye-ore, eye-ore” of the donkey.  He wondered what the stupid donkey had done now, so he looked all over his property until at last he found the animal at the bottom of an old abandoned well.

Exasperated, the farmer rang his neighbors and asked them each to bring a shovel.  He’d had enough of the stupid donkey, so he had decided to bury it in the well.

All of his friends came over and together they started to shovel dirt into the well.  At first, the donkey protested loudly, braying with all of his might, but after about 10 minutes, he stopped.

The farmers kept shoveling.

After a while, someone decided to have a look into the well to see what had happened to the donkey.  What he saw astonished him.

Instead of being buried, the donkey would shake off the incoming dirt, standing on the ever-increasing mound.

Now the mission changed and the farmers went from trying to bury the donkey to trying to save him, shoveling more and more dirt into the abandoned well until the donkey jumped out of the top victorious.

Upon his release, the farmers all dropped their shovels and applauded the old stubborn beast with a newfound admiration.

Life is always going to shovel dirt on you at some point. You may feel like you’re at the bottom of a well and it’s coming quicker than you know what to do. Taking real action and shaking the “dirt” off is the first step towards moving on. Learn from the “dirt” and use it as stepping stones to bigger and better things.

Don’t just take it and get buried, shake it off and STEP UP!

What are you going to shake off and use as stepping stones in the coming year? Leave a comment below.

Resolutions vs. Goals: How Leveraging Both Can Make You More Successful!

It’s getting to be that time of year again! You know…the time where 45% of Americans are getting ready to make New Year’s Resolutions! According to Statistic Brain only 8% of people actually achieve their resolutions. Why is that? Could it be that people are making good resolutions but don’t have any goals to help achieve them? What is the difference between a Resolution and a Goal anyways?! Let’s dig a little deeper and find out how we can set and achieve our New Year’s Resolutions by leveraging solid goals!

What is a resolution and how does it differ from a goal? Great question! A resolution is something that you desire to make as a permanent lifestyle change. Resolutions are something you may never achieve (think “perfection”) but something you strive for on a daily basis. Goals on the other hand are specific, measurable, actionable and achievable. Goals support Resolutions.

Here is an example of both and how they work together:

Resolution: Live a healthier life
          Goal: Lose 25 lbs. by June 30
          Goal: Cut out 75% of processed foods by January 31
          Goal: Run a 5k race in under 40 minutes by August 1

Living a healthier life is something you can continue to do on a daily basis and always strive to improve. There may be days that you do better than others, but each day provides a fresh opportunity to move forward. Losing 25 lbs by June 30 is a goal that will help you progress towards living a healthier life.

Here is another example:

Resolution: Improve my financial outlook
          Goal: Eliminate $5,000 in debt by September 1
          Goal: Save $200 of each paycheck
          Goal: Work with a financial advisor to set up a retirement account

Eliminating debt, saving a portion of your paychecks and setting up a retirement account are three very specific and measurable goals that will help in reaching the resolution of improving one’s financial outlook.

Now that we know the difference between Resolutions and Goals, here are five ways we can leverage Goals to help us achieve our Resolutions and to enable us have a phenomenal New Year!

1. Determine three “Resolutions” to commit to for the new year
When determining what resolutions to commit to make sure that they are things that matter to you. We will push harder and stick with things even when times get tough if we believe it’s worth working for. If your resolutions don’t motivate you, you have a much smaller chance of sticking with them.

2. Attribute three “Goals” under each resolution that will help you progress
Just like with meaningful resolutions make sure your goals are ones that will motivate you. Make sure you set Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Realistic and Time-based (S.M.A.R.T.) The SMARTer the goals the more likely you will achieve them.

3. Write down your Resolutions and Goals
Statistics from Dr. Gail Matthews show that you are 42% more likely to achieve your goals if you write them down. If writing down your goals catapults the likelihood of achieving them, why are we doing it?!

4. Take that first step!
Taking the first step can be the most difficult in any journey. It’s only when we take that first step, often in faith, that we find the courage to keep going. Sometimes just taking that step is all that we need to run with gusto towards the finish line!

5. Stick with it!
This is where the rubber meets the road so to speak. Too many times we quit when things get tough or uncomfortable. This is why it is so important to have Resolutions and Goals that matter and motivate you. If you believe in what you are doing, you are more likely to stick with it through the tough times. Remember, very seldom are great things achieved in your comfort zone.

What resolutions are you setting for the new year? What goals have you identified to help you progress with your resolutions? Share your thoughts in the comment section below!

Procrastination…Momentum Killer and Dream Stealer!

We’ve all been there. Knowing what we should be doing and not doing it. Knowing what we want to do and still…not…doing…it!

Instead we are daydreaming, off in our own little universe without a care in the world. We like it there, it’s safe and comforting.

procrastination

Procrastination…it’s a momentum killer and a dream stealer. It lulls us all into a false sense of “time security.” The idea that we have all the time in the world to do whatever needs to be done. The fact is, we all have the same amount of time…24 hours (1,400 minutes or 86,400 seconds) in a day and not a second more. Scientist haven’t developed a way to give us more time and until they do, we must learn how to use the time we have to make a difference in the world we live.

Here are four simple steps to put procrastination back where it belongs and get you, me, us where we belong which is making positive movement towards the realization of our goals and dreams.

1. Determine where you want to end up…Keep it BIG!
One of the main ways procrastination creeps into our lives is that we get too bogged down in the big picture details. We have a goal or dream and then we try to figure out each step we need to take to get there. STOP! Don’t worry about all the little steps need to get there, instead focus on the what the end goal looks like. Visualize what life will be when you arrive and have faith that things will unfold in due time when you need them.

2. Prepare for the next day the night before. 
I usually get up in the morning energized and ready to face the day…then I get to my office. What do I do first? Maybe I’ll check my email…no, let me wrap up this project real quick…wait, I need to return a call I received. What actually happens is I decide to clean up my office and nothing of real importance gets done. One way to not let this type of procrastination set in is to, “Prepare for the next day the night before”. Write down a list of actionable items that you want to finish tomorrow that will help you move closer to your goals. By preparing for the next day the night before you are setting yourself up for a dose of daily success!

3. Start with one or two small tasks 
This may fly in the face of traditional wisdom, but I believe that we all like to see success early and often. It gives us the motivation to keep going and keep pushing on towards the end. Starting with one or two small tasks each day will help build up our confidence and provide the extra gumption to take on a larger task. Another benefit is it allows those who aren’t morning people to shake out the cobwebs or realize the effects of a cup of coffee before moving on to a bigger, more complex task. Think of it like a snowball rolling down a hill…at first it may not seem like much of a threat, but as it continues to roll and pick up steam and snow the more power it generates. Tasks are like a snowball, get a couple of quick wins and some success under your belt every morning then watch out world! Nothing is going to stop you now!

4. Stop starting and start finishing 
Author/Speaker David Allen has said,

Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do.
It comes from not finishing what they’ve started.”

Often times we feel overwhelmed with what we need to do. We feel that we have too much to do in to short of time which leads to prolonged periods of procrastination. Instead of focusing on everything that needs to get done, focus on one thing at a time and knock it out! Finish it! Get it off your plate and move on! Having something 99% finished ultimately means it is 100% unfinished! Stop starting and start finishing and take another step towards achieving your goals!

Procrastination can be a momentum killer and a dream stealer but only if you let it. Take the steps to not allow it to happen, and if you feel procrastination sneaking up on you, take BOLD action and keep moving forward!

How have you battled procrastination in the past? Leave a reply in the comment section below.

Bucking the Trend: 5 Ways to Use Failure as Fuel for Your Success!

What’s one word that rips at the heart of any human being? One word that stops us dead in our tracks. One word we allow all to often to identify who we are.failure

That word…FAILURE! We allow our failures, real or perceived, to stall and even stop our progress. We allow failure to define who we are and what we’ve done and even what we can do. But what if we were to look at failure in a different light? Instead of failures holding us back, why not use them as fuel to propel us to new and greater success!

Here are 5 ways to use Failure as Fuel!

1. Take Responsibility!
This may sound a bit off, but think about it. If you are always blaming someone or something else for your failures, then you have absolutely no control to change it! By accepting responsibility of you failures, you are telling yourself and the world to watch out! You are going to find out why you received the results you did and determine what you need to do in order to generate the results you desire!

2. Use failures to uncover additional opportunities!
Once you have accepted responsibility it will free your mind to look at how these failures have opened up new opportunities. Opportunities to look for different solutions in order to to achieve your desired outcomes. Don’t allow failure to limit yourself to only your way of thinking. Use failures as a catalyst to grow and expand your mind and knowledge.

3. See failures as steps in the journey to success!
Failure isn’t the end. In fact the only way you can fail is if you quit! See your failures as building blocks to greater and bigger successes for the future. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day and anything worth working for won’t be either. Use failures as a new launch pad for the next leg of your success journey.

4. Use failures as motivation to drive harder to your end goal.
Just as we view failure as one step in the success journey, use failure to motivate you to drive harder towards your end goal. Failure can be used as either a propellant or a deterrent. How you respond to failure will determine the rate at which you push towards success. Great inventors such as Thomas Edison used failure as fuel to create the light bulb.  He’s been quoted as saying:

“I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

5. Use failures as a time for honest reflection
Failures often hit you like a sucker punch in the gut. They cause you to lose your breath and take a step back. Use this time as a reflection period and have an honest discussion with yourself. Reflect on what has happened, what brought you to this point and what can you do to achieve the desired results.

Failure is inevitable. How we respond to failure is 100% up to us. Take responsibility and use failure as fuel to lead you on to success!

How have you used failures in the past as fuel for success? Leave a reply in the comment section below.

Bucking the Trend: Perfection Isn’t Perfect!

Welcome to the second installment of Bucking the Trend”. Today we talk Perfection…and how Perfection Isn’t Perfect. In fact, if we focus too much on perfection, we will most likely never accomplish all that we are capable of.

I’d love to read your comments in the comments section below.

Bucking the Trend – Part 2: Perfection Isn’t Perfect!

“I’ve almost got it perfect.”
“Just a little bit more, then it’ll be perfect and ready to post.”
“If it’s not perfect, I’m not going to share it.”

These are a few thoughts and phrases that will kill the momentum of any artist, writer, entrepreneur or business person. Striving for perfection isn’t a bad thing, but when we make perfection our sole focus we lose sight of our progress and our goals.

Entrepreneurs (myself included) struggle with this concept all the time. We want to make sure we have the perfect blog post, product or service. Our marketing has to be spot on or we believe we’ll fail miserably! Our website has to be absolutely perfect or no one will ever click. The truth is, if we never put it out there, never publish our article, never communicate our plan, NOTHING WILL EVER HAPPEN!

So how can make sure that we don’t let perfection become our first and last insurmountable mountain? Here are four steps you can take to overcome the perfection bug and start your journey to success!

1. Decide on where you want to end up, but don’t focus on the how, yet!
Decisions, decisions, decisions. We all have to make them but some struggle more than others. The key here is to decide where you want to end up. Don’t worry on how you’ll get there, decide. My kids are studying the 7 Habits and one of the habits is, “Start with the end in mind.” If you don’t know where you want to go you’ll never end up there. Yogi Berra once said, “If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.”

2. Document your first step…(Notice it’s just one step, not all!)
Now that you know where you’re headed write down the first step. Just like before you don’t need to know all the steps, just the first one. Too many times we as humans want to make sure we know everything, have everything planned out and all situations accounted for. This is impossible! If everyone knew everything, we would have already arrived at out destination. What’s your first step?

3. ACT!
Now is when the rubber meets the road. You know where you’re going and you know what the first step is. DO IT! Don’t become a victim of analysis paralysis! This is often the straw that breaks the camel’s back. We’re okay with deciding where we’re going and even pretty okay with the first step. It’s that first step that’s a killer, or so we believe. Having courage to take that step is often what separates the successful from the unsuccessful. Which camp do you want to be in?

4. Realize that progress is better than perfection
Finally, we need to realize that progress is better than perfection. We may think that we want perfection, but what would happen if we obtained it? Would we be satisfied? If not, then was it really perfect to begin with? Ultimately, it’s the progression towards perfection that drives us, not perfection itself. 

Don’t let the perfection bug paralyze you from action. Become a person of action and just get moving!

Bucking the Trend: Why “Trying” Doesn’t Matter

This is the first of a three part series entitled, “Bucking the Trend”. The goal is to explore three different topics that come up when one is trying to better themselves and how to view them from a different perspective. Can “Bucking the Trend” be a catalyst to catapult you to new levels? Read on and find out.

I’d love to read your comments in the comments section below.

Bucking the Trend – Part 1: Why “Trying” Doesn’t Matter

How many times were you told as a kid to just “Try It”? Now how many times as an adult do you say, “I’ll give it a try”? Probably more than you think! Conventional wisdom tells us that “trying” things is how we learn or it’s how we determine if something will work or if we will like something. Below are 3 reasons for why “trying” is overrated and 3 ways to Buck the Trend!

3 Reasons why “Trying” is overrated:

1. Trying is passive
The word “trying” may imply action, but in reality it’s passive. If I were to ask you to pick up a ball and your response is “I’ll try” and you bend down to pick it up…you didn’t try (passive) to pick it up, you either “did” (action) or “didn’t” (action). Trying requires no effort or action, it is merely an empty word.

2. Trying encourages failure
When we say, “I’ll try” it allows failure to be okay. Failure in and of itself isn’t bad. In fact we many times learn more in our failures that in our successes. But when we try we not only leave the door open for failure, we often don’t give 100%.

3. Trying is a scapegoat
Not only does “trying” encourage failure, “trying” also acts as a scapegoat. We feel that if we try something and it doesn’t work out then no harm done. We will accept failure and tell ourselves failure is okay, because we were just “trying”.

3 Ways to Buck the Trying Trend

1. Extinguish “try” from your vocabulary 
Extinguish means to put out or bring to an end. The words we choose feed our actions. By effectively extinguishing “try” from our vocabulary, we are removing the inaction of “trying” and the acceptance of failure.

2. Make a decision and a plan
This embodies action. By making a decision and a plan we are no longer inactive but active. This kicks “trying” to the curb!

3. Commit to the plan and outcome(s)
“Trying” often leads to a half-hearted attempt. By committing to the plan and to the outcomes, we stand a greater chance of success. Committing requires action and accountability.

The difference between success and failure is often the mindset we enter with. Instead of entering with the mindset of “trying”, enter with the mindset of “DOING”!

My First Blog Post

Welcome to my new blog! My name is Heath Hunsaker and my goal is to encourage, equip and enable you to live life to the fullest. If you are looking for real ways to improve your life and help you achieve your goals, then this is the blog for you!

I plan to post once a week on Tuesdays. I don’t intend this blog to be a monologue where I talk to you, but for it to be a dialogue where we talk with each other. I want your feedback in the comments section. I commit to read every comment and respond as I am able.

If you have a topic you would like for me to address, please leave a comment below.

I’m excited to connect with you!